tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6485074955809728594.post7054706412330284609..comments2023-05-27T07:56:36.081-07:00Comments on Adventures of an Average Mom: OneMeganhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06775321569395417274noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6485074955809728594.post-38789387240890588292011-06-08T10:34:03.586-07:002011-06-08T10:34:03.586-07:00I really do still think about how little I got to ...I really do still think about how little I got to see and hold (and try to feed) Corin in those first days. I think I got to see him for a about ten seconds before he was whisked away and I didn't understand for another hour or so why they were in such a hurry. It was all very surreal and once the drugs wore off I just kept thinking - this isn't supposed to go like this. I don't necessarily feel shame about it, though certainly some irrational guilt, but I do morn that TV moment more often than I should.Clarehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01636448899091026435noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6485074955809728594.post-29083275723185119962011-06-03T08:19:55.428-07:002011-06-03T08:19:55.428-07:00Melissa, that's very true-people need to allow...Melissa, that's very true-people need to allow you to be sad that things didn't happen the way you had hoped, even though of course the end goal is a healthy baby. I don't think Ben gets how upsetting it all can still be to me sometimes-particularly not being able to breastfeed him for longer, or the fact that we always had to supplement.<br /><br />I see a movie or whatever on TV and there's a mom holding her brand new baby and it will still get to me, just because I didn't have that with him.Meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06775321569395417274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6485074955809728594.post-58215304833464921052011-06-03T05:19:49.144-07:002011-06-03T05:19:49.144-07:00Happy birthday Henry!
I agree with Mama Mel absol...Happy birthday Henry!<br /><br />I agree with Mama Mel absolutely, but I also wanted to say something else. Everyone always says, 'but you have a beautiful healthy baby, and that's all that matters.' To a certain extent, that's true. However, it is also ok, and even necessary, to grieve for the birth you wish you had had. It takes time even to understand what happened, if it didn't go the way you hoped, and even more time to come to terms with it. I'm writing this publicly rather than as a private message because I think many women feel guilty for being sad in these circumstances, and feel alone, when being sad is completely normal and they are not at all alone. You are a rock star Mom.Iron Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04156656183487916570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6485074955809728594.post-51925416064720911282011-06-03T04:42:44.794-07:002011-06-03T04:42:44.794-07:00You did a good job on your birth-day...you are doi...You did a good job on your birth-day...you are doing a great job now. Your Little Dude has awesome parents. And really--you are SO right about not asking about the state of any one's bits-and-bobs!<br /><br />Love you!<br />Mama Melmjseehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05888155813585864249noreply@blogger.com